I know many people are not fans of Oprah, but I admit that I am. I DVR it everyday. For 2009, Oprah has started a "Living your Best Life" series. Last Wednesday, she had a guest named Elizabeth Lesser, who wrote the book called Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow. She explained that when life hands you something difficult you can either a)break down and be defeated or b) break open and be transformed.
There was also a family featured who suffered the loss of their son. His twin brother spoke about losing his brother and had an analogy that I thought was perfect. (If you don't feel like watching the whole video, the part I am talking about starts at 3:49)